Remember watching Jennifer Lawrence fall up the stairs as she received her Oscar?
Or just this year at the Grammys, when Adele requested a do-over to her George Michael tribute because she wanted it to be perfect.
We do our best not to make them, but often times it’s through our errors that we become more relatable to others. Adele and Jennifer Lawrence are both A-list celebrities, but by inadvertently exposing their flaws, they became human, made normal. Because let’s be honest, we think they secretly put their pants on differently than us.
When people of high status make mistakes, they become intriguing. Why? Because a huge part of their image is creating the illusion of constant perfection. Of course, we all know that perfection doesn’t exist, but that doesn’t stop people from trying or pretending to have it all together all the time. When that facade is punctured in the least bit, a part of the real person is granted freedom. That escaped authenticity is what we plug into and sparks our interest.
Before I go any further, I am in no way implying that Adele or Jennifer Lawrence are artificial, I just picked on them as examples to show that most celebrities are held to an expectation of perfection that is nonexistent.
When Jennifer Lawerence, finally made it to the microphone, she received a standing ovation from the audience. They were supportive of her.
Likewise, when Adele showed clear frustration at her initial undertaking of George Michael’s, “Fast Love” the audience cheered her on as she prepared for her second attempt of the song.
Vulnerability is at the heart of all human connection. Although we’ve never fallen on our faces in a million dollar dress on our way to receive an Oscar, we still know what it’s like to be embarrassed. Whether it’s in a Valentino dress or a pair of ten dollar jeans from Walmart, the reaction is the same: shock, red faces, thundering hearts knocking against our chests, racing adrenaline, and sweaty palms. Humiliation looks the same on everyone.
As much fun as I’m having talking about embarrassing celebrity moments, my real point is that the same humanization we’re fascinated by in them is what we also seek in one another. It is incredibly comforting to know that we’re not the only ones. There are others who share in our difficulties and know exactly how we feel. They understand what we go through and can help us. But if we wall off the parts of ourselves that are under construction, we only prolong the rebuilding process.
God created human beings to be relational- with Him and one another. Our personal problems are similar to mathematical equations, one thing affects another. Numbers work in conjunction with other variables in order to solve an equation. As well, we have to stop looking at our struggles as if they’re standalone problems. Our conflicts are connected. If we learn to work on resolutions together, each of our problems could be resolved with more ease and fewer setbacks.
However, if we remain unwilling to express our vulnerabilities, we will grow weary in our efforts to better ourselves. We need to be able to see a resemblance of ourselves in one another because, in fact, we are all reflections of the human experience. That experience includes both happiness and sadness, moments of victory and stories of defeat. Our lives are a hurricane of experiences and it takes every single part of us to create that storm and the subsequent rainbow.
Those rare moments when we catch a stranger laughing hysterically, watch a curious child observe his/her surroundings, hug a bad flyer on a plane, or see a woman fall on her face, must be embraced, for those connections are the heartbeat of humanity.
James 5:16 says:
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
Galations 6:2 also commands that we bear one another’s burdens in keeping with the law of Christ.
We have to learn to appreciate the art of building one another up. We all exist under one roof and we each possess a vital piece of construction for our home. If we fail to address the weaknesses in certain areas, the whole structure could founder. We have the ability to help one another more than we realize. If we bring our struggles, concerns, and fears from behind the curtain, we will find that there are others who are just like us and together (through God) we can build a strong, resilient home,
Let’s not be so eager to hide our flaws, they are what connects us. We must learn to be honest and empathetic, loving and encouraging toward one another. We have to take the first step in exposing our vulnerabilities because we are responsible for showing others that it is through our honesty, pain, and struggles that we will learn to build one another up and strengthen our weaknesses together.